How To Be a Bitch

Bitch in this context is obviously not a female dog nor I meant it vulgarly or as an insult.
In a feminine context, it can indicate a strong and an assertive woman; one that makes men feel threatened.

Are you one of those people who puts the needs of others first and your needs last?
Do you find yourself saying "yes" when you mean "no"?
Are you overextending yourself to others?
If so, then you are probably too nice for your own good. Instead of bringing the love and acceptance you crave, this behavior may attract people who will exploit you.

It is indeed true that people will value niceness in others. However, if your way of being nice is to suppress your own needs constantly, you have to do something about it. If you always put the needs of others first, and your own needs last, if you don't speak out your opinion, preferences or even when your own needs are ignored, then you are being too nice for your own good.

A person who wont state their opinions or preferences may think they are being nice, but this is not niceness, this is a form of fearfulness and a lack of self-respect. Some people develop the trait of never asking for what they want because they were raised in a family where expressing wants or opinions was discouraged, or even disallowed or might encounter unfavorable feelings afterwards; such as guilt or feeling that you are such a burden. They may have been literally taught that they shouldn't speak up, that they shouldn't want anything for themselves and that everyone else's opinion mattered more than theirs.

The majority of women who have been called a bitch have possessed strength, courage and used their minds to create positions of power. they have made tough decisions and may not always be agreeable to everyone who works for them. Men who possess these qualities are not seen as bitches but instead as a strong, tough leaders who everyone respects.

So why can't this title be applied to women as well?

If being a bitch means that you are a woman who demands respect, who is forced to be reckoned with in business and in life, then why can't we use the term bitch as a new type of modern compliment?

Be assertive.

Show your confidence when you talk to people especially when you are standing up for yourself after you have felt insulted or disrespect. But be a bitch with class; stay positive. Counter their opinion with a forceful personality but maintain the positive vibe.

Be your body-shape.

Be thin. If you are going to be a bitch, you need to have the sort of figure that makes people think you are self-absorbed probably because you work out and try to eat healthy. Be fat, who gives a f*ck with what people think of you because if you are fat, you are clearly doing something that you want.You eat what you want and if you get fat, so be it. What's the point of pleasing the eyes of people who you don't even like? And of course, you can be neither fat nor thin. Good thing here is that you don't have to pick sides, like nothing is wrong with you. You are making it difficult for people to classify you and that makes you a bitch.

Compliment yourself.

Oh what the hell. Look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Tell yourself how awesome you turn up to be. Tell yourself that you are a strong and beautiful lady. Love what you see in the mirror. Doesn't matter if you are over-sized, if you have a bad hair or an awfully retarded nose, give yourself a compliment. Because at the end of the day, the only person who can really makes you the person you really want to be is yourself - which is also the person who stands in your way. You choose. 

Stand up for what you want.

Nice girls try to get others to like them, hoping that by doing so people will then give them what they want. Bitches take what they want and don't need to be at the beck and call of some else because most of the time, people that keep up with the nice girls generally end up taking advantage of their niceness instead of rewarding them.

Don't put up with any bullshit.

The bitch does things differently - her own way. A bitch must not willing to take any bullshit from anyone else and we must not hesitate to tell them so. This makes people respect us more - transparency.

Being a bitch here is not about being unkind to others nor a post to teach you in man-hating. And of course, this could apply for both men and women. In fact, it has absolutely nothing to do with other people and everything to do with one's self and one's own personal nature. Being a bitch also doesn't automatically mean that you are an evil person. In this case, it simply means that you are bold and brazen enough to assert yourself and your needs. 

Keep your heads up ladies, it is about time to look up for ourselves. If you believe that being nice means never asking for anything for yourself, it is important to learn to pay attention to your needs, to respect yourself and to ask for what you want and need. Take your turn making decision with others. Make your needs and preferences heard. If you find your wishes are always being ignored, take a close look at why this is happening and see how you can change it.

Good day beautiful people. :)